Respect your husband.

David and I have been together 5 years, 6 years this November. We've been married for 3 years, 4 years this October. And I love him with all my heart. But, do I respect him? I can honestly say that just a couple days ago, I did not respect him. And honestly, I may never have really respected him. I had never thought of it really. I mean, I'm home all day. I make all the decisions, about EVERYTHING, I do not take his opinion seriously on many things, okay most things(because I always thought my way was best). I didn't want to do things he wanted to do, because I had things I wanted to do. I didn't really listen to him talk, about anything. Like work, or something that he enjoys like his video games. I just also tuned him out to continue what ever I was doing. Because I thought it wasn't very important. And it may not be important to me, but it is important to him. So I need to make it important to me.

I was reading in my bible about respecting your husband. I found alot of useful information.

Proverbs 14:1- The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

In my study bible it says this about that verse : Every wife has the power to create or destroy her relationship with her husband.

The day that I found this David and I were in an argument about something personal. But I just couldn't figure out WHY he couldn't see my side of the argument? And we have had this same argument for years. And it gets very tiring having the same argument every couple weeks. So I went to my bible and looked for verses related to marriage. I came across the one above. "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands". A wise woman works it out with her husband, understands HIS side and trys to cooperate so that way both are happy. But the foolish one refuses to see the other side, thinks that her side is the right side no matter what. And I was the foolish one!

Ephesians 5:33- Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Respect. Wives need to respect their husbands. Why? Men are difficult :) Honestly. We all know that! LOL Men need respect, espically(sp?) from their wives. Its kinda like how women need love, they need to feel loved, well men need to be respected. And they need to feel that they are respect. When men are respected they feel good about themselves, they are confident, and they get strength from it. I'm always telling David he needs to show me he loves me more, because sometimes I get caught up in MOMMY role that I just dont feel very loved as a WIFE. Well, in the aspect, I need to show David more respect. He is my husband, my best friend, and I need to respect him in any way possible.

I read those verses a few days ago, and I prayed and read some more. I decided that I was going to start respecting David more. And guess what, we are both alot happier now! :) And its not hard! I just listen to him, talk to him about the thigns that he likes, instead of it always being about ME or the kids. I ask him for his opinions on things, and I wait for an answer. Before, he woudl just say something, anything, because he knew I wasn't paying attention really. And now we both talk about decisions that need to be made and we do it together. We are both still working on our relationship. But, one thing I can really contribute is respect for him.